Don’t compare yourself to people who aren’t honest with themselves. People who pull away from authenticity are just afraid of how they see their reflection in your flaws. Don’t be like them. Press into the lives that admit their condition without seeking to justify it or hide it. Build your life around people who don’t fear the darkness in you because they’ve not only seen it in themselves, but have witnessed the beauty of invasive, redeeming light first-hand. Seek out people who admit to their own struggles instead of judging others for not being as good at hiding their sin. These kind of people are imperative to the Christian life—living examples of redemption in all its guts and glory. You need to be part of the lovely mess of living an authentic life because it has a no-bullshit policy, and don’t you prefer the grittiness of that over the superficiality of don’t-ask-don’t-tell? I do. And from what I see, this is what the gospel’s core is—hopeful realism. It isn’t delusional, and it isn’t doomed. It’s our reality through the lens of truth. I want to be a part of a community who want the same—a community that loves instead of judges, who admit where they are, but claim the promise of where they’re headed. A community of people whose hearts are constantly under construction. A community that proclaims the love of a Savior who pulled us out of darkness and daily fights on our behalf so we won’t return. A community that reminds each other who they’re called to be and affirms how one another are bearing evidence of His presence in our lives. A community that is needy, honest, repentant, and fully satisfied in the love that has redefined our identities. A community that doesn’t cower at brokenness, but stares it in the face and invites the overwhelming presence of Jesus to come and move.